To the friends who can endure hard conversations (and also forgive!)

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	Forwarded this email? Subscribe here for more Good Apologies Will Save Your Friendships To the friends who can endure hard conversations (and also forgive!) Nina Badzin Sep 30   READ IN APP   Photo by Steve DiMatteo on Unsplash Apologies are difficult and important work. They’re not “light friendship maintenance” like remembering a friend’s birthday or forwarding a funny meme. And here’s what I’ve come to believe in a decade of writing about friendship: Apologies given with thought and intention are acts of love. Apologies accepted well are acts of grace. Asking for an apology when you feel one is owed is an act of trust. (And maybe the hardest of all.) I covered all three areas of apologies in episode #166 of Dear Nina with the wise and wonderful Marjorie Ingall, co-author with Susan McCarthy of Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies (released in paperback as Getting to Sorry: The Art of Apology at Work and at Home) and co-creator of SorryWatch.com. We covered Marjorie and Susan’s six steps of a good apology, different scenarios of granting forgiveness (or not), what to do when you feel someone owes you an apology, and how to handle an apology that was subpar. None of this is easy, but the harder the conversation, the deeper the friendship on the other side. Frustrated with some of your friends? You’re not alone. Check out the anonymous friendship dilemmas. You might have a similar question. Upgrade to paid Why is saying “I’m sorry” in a way that doesn’t make excuses and truly acknowledges wrongdoing so difficult? A good apology forces us to admit we’re flawed. Likewise, granting forgiveness or soliciting an apology forces us to admit someone else has the power to hurt us. Yet those conversations are exactly the type that bring friends closer. One of my favorite moments in my conversation with Marjorie was when she said: “A good thing about getting older is knowing yourself better and being more willing to take the risk for people you love. Because as you get older, you start losing the people you love. And saying, ‘Hey, you matter to me. I want to apologize to you. I want you to apologize to me,’ can do incredible work in helping us move forward.” For the six steps to a quality apology and some good laughs and personal anecdotes about apologies gone wrong (and right), listen to Majorie in episode #166. Episode #166: How to Say I’m Sorry, Accept Apologies, and Ask for One FIND EPISODE #166 on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and anywhere you listen to podcasts! The Child-Free Friend: Honest Talk About Friendship and Different Life Paths Last week I spoke with bestselling author Dani Alpert, who has always known she didn’t want children. While her best friends all married and had kids, Dani carved out a different life. The result? Decades of navigating friendships where communication was extra necessary to keep resentment and misunderstanding at bay. Dani says it took a lot work along with the type of hard conversations I referred to in my episode with Marjorie as well, but she did not want to lose these important relationships and every difficult discussion was worth the effort. Dani has advice for listeners that goes beyond whether or not you have kids. Many areas of life and the decisions we make can set us apart from the path our friends chose. No matter the “topic,” communication is key. There’s no other way to hold onto the friendships that matter to you. Whatever the difference is between you and your friends, Dani’s wisdom applies: speak up, be honest, and trust that the right friends will stick. Listen to episode #165 with Dani for a funny, candid, and deeply relatable episode about friendship across different life paths. Episode #165: The Child-Free Friend: Honest Talk About Friendship and Different Life Paths FIND EPISODE #165 on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and anywhere you listen to podcasts! Two anonymous questions you might have missed My Friend Is Always “The Devil’s Advocate” Nina Badzin · Sep 14 Read full story "What if MY kid is the mean one?" Nina Badzin · Aug 11 Read full story Let’s connect outside of this newsletter: You can find me most often in the Facebook group, Dear Nina: The Group. All the social media links are below. I know I need to get rid of some them! Instagram | TikTok | YouTube | LinkedIn | My Website You’re a free subscriber to Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship. Frustrated with some of your friends? You’re not alone! The anonymous letters are a perk for paying subscribers. You probably have a similar question. Upgrade any time for the full archive. Upgrade to paid Share   Like Comment Restack   © 2025 Nina Badzin The Great Midwest Unsubscribe